Is your “personal relationship” with God destroying your spiritual vitality? Part 2

If you forget part 1 in this series, feel free to go back and reread it so that what I'm currently writing will make a bit more sense. I'm working off of Richard Weaver's warning that the life of 20th century man was abysmal because his life had become "practice without theory". 20th century man developed ways of operating that were without an underlying truth. I'd like to warn us of some things that can creep into our lives if we misuse the term "personal relationship" with God and live a practice without a theory.

1. Christ is the reason that I am connected to God, not my choices. Most Christians believe that they are in Christ because of the right choices they've made. Jesus warns against this kind of thinking because he knows how prideful it will make the individual who believes it. He directly tells his disciples "you did not choose me but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit" (John 15:16). Jesus is utterly clear that the Gospel does not break through as a result of right choices of man but rather as a result of God's choice. It is Christ's work not my personal decision that makes me right before the Holy God of the universe.
2. The center of my religious practice is not what I do privately. What I do privately is important and affects how I live publicly but it is not the center of my connection to Christ. I'm connected to God through Christ because of grace and faith but the greatest practical exercise of my faith is my God given connection to His Body the Church. The center of my relationship to God is my love and attention to the church of Jesus Christ. I am called to love other believers, be baptized, receive communion, devote myself to prayer and listen to His Word as it is preached. Spiritual dryness is, many times, a result of distance from the Body of Christ. We, as privacy loving American evangelicals, have a tendency to believe that how we worship privately will drive our passion for living Christ out publicly. I sense that this thinking is out of line with the Bible. The testimony of Scripture seems to be that what happens with the church of Christ should drive our private worship. The testimony of the first church in Acts 2 is clear. In no way does Acts 2 discourage any private worship of the believer but the clear reaction of the believers to the movement of God's Holy Spirit was public repentance and baptism (v38,41), listening to sermons (42), public communion (depending on how you interpret this verse 42), corporate prayer (42), the sharing of possessions (44-45), corporate worship (46), and meals together (46). In other words, there was a real conviction in them about being together with the Body of Christ.
3. If I'm committed to my "personal relationship" with God (as defined in 21st century America), there will be clear commands in the Scripture that I will have a desire to dismiss immediately. The truth conveyed in 1 Corinthians 12 is that my struggles, my sin, and my good experiences will have tremendous affect on other Christians. In other words, as a Christian, how I live publically and privately will affect others. This bucks against my American understanding of "personal". Personal seems to imply that it is just me and Jesus but the Scriptures teach that it is me, Jesus, and other believers (1 Cor 12:27). "Obey your (church) leaders and submit to them. " (Heb 10:17) This violates my understanding of "personal relationship". Within that very same verse God tells church leaders that "they are keeping watch over (the) souls" of their church members. In other words, someone else will actually give some sort of an account for how you live when they get to heaven. That doesn't sound strictly "personal".

Hey, let's remember that at the end of the age there will be an judgment. The Scriptures seem to indicate that aspects of the judgment will be personal (2 Cor 5:10). In other words it won't be you and me or you and your minister or you and your parents in that judgment. The judgment will mainly concern what you did with Jesus Christ. Was your affection for Christ, was their faith in His work, and did that faith bring about a true repentance from sin? This is why we need to be personally justified and converted but when we are converted we are no longer individuals who run around doing the spiritual life on our own but we are grafted into the Body of Christ. We're in His vineyard/building/Kingdom/family/sheepfold/church etc. We're now experiencing "His fullness". (Eph 1)